Conflict resolution technology
Build skills to make conflict an opportunity
Conflict is a normal part of a healthy relationship. After all, two people can not always expect to agree on everything. The key is not to avoid conflict, but to learn how to solve problems in a healthy way. If conflicts are handled incorrectly, they can cause great harm to the relationship, but if you respond in a respectful and positive way, conflict gives you an opportunity to strengthen the bond between the two. Whatever the cause of discrepancies and conflicts, you can grow these personal and professional relationships by acquiring these skills to resolve conflicts.
What is the cause of the conflict?
Conflicts arise from large and small differences. It happens whenever people do not agree with value, motivation, awareness, ideas or desires. Sometimes these differences seem trivial, but when conflicts create strong emotions, personal deep demands are often the heart of the problem. These unmet requirements vary in that they feel safe, secure, respectful, and worthy, or lack of intimacy and closeness.
Conflicts arise due to different demands.
Everyone needs to understand, nurture and support, but the way these needs are met varies. The diverse needs for a comfortable and safe feeling create some of the most serious challenges in personal and professional relationships.
Think about the contradictory need for safety and continuity and the need to explore and take risks. You have often seen conflicts between infants and parents. Because the needs of a child are exploration, distance or cliffs fulfill their needs. However, limiting the expedition is a controversy among them because the needs of their parents protect the safety of their children.
The needs of both parties play an important role in the long-term success of most relationships and each deserves respect and consideration. In personal relationships, lack of understanding of different needs can lead to distance, argument, and demolition. Different demands in work conflicts are often at the heart of terrible disputes, sometimes breaking deals, reducing profits, and reducing jobs. Recognizing the legitimacy of conflicting needs and being willing to review them in a compassionate understanding environment opens the door to creative problem solving, team building and improved relationships.
Conflict is more than a mismatch. A situation in which one or both parties are aware of the threat (whether or not the threat actually exists).
When ignored, the conflict continues to deteriorate. Conflict is perceived as a threat to our well-being and survival, so we will be with us until we face and resolve it.
We deal with conflicts according to our perceptions. There is no need to review the situation objectively. Our perceptions are influenced by our life experiences, culture, values and beliefs.
Conflicts cause strong emotions. If you feel uncomfortable or unable to manage stress when you are stressed, you will not be able to successfully resolve the conflict.
Conflict is an opportunity for growth. If you can resolve conflicts in a relationship, you can build trust. You can rest assured that your relationship can survive challenges and inconsistencies.
How do you respond to a dispute?
Be afraid of conflict or avoid it. If the perception of conflict comes from ill memory from infant or past unhealthy relationships, you can expect all discrepancies to end seriously. Conflicts may seem fraudulent, humiliating, or frightening. Conflicts can be a shock to you if you get stuck or out of control due to your early life experience.
If you are afraid of conflict, it can be self-fulfilling prophecy. If you enter a conflict that is already under threat, it is difficult to deal with it in a healthy way. Instead, you are more likely to end up with anger or fly away.
Healthy and unhealthy ways to manage and resolve conflicts
Unhealthy response to conflict | Healthy response to conflict:
I can not recognize and respond to something important to others. Ability to empathize with others’ perspectives
Explosive, anger, wounds, and resentful reactions Quiet, non-defensive, and gracious responses
I am ready to forgive and forget to eradicate love that causes fear of rejection, isolation, itching, and giving up. I am ready to overcome conflict without anger or anger.
Ability to seek compromise or other inability to compromise and avoid punishment
Feel fear or avoid conflict. We are expecting bad results. The belief that confrontation is the best for both sides.
Conflict resolution, stress and emotion
Conflicts can cause strong emotions and can lead to hurt, disappointment, and discomfort. Handling in an unhealthy manner can lead to irreversible conflicts, anger and disorganization. However, if the conflict resolves in a healthy way, you will increase your understanding, build trust and strengthen your relationship.
If you emphasize that you can focus on a limited number of emotions that are not emotional, you will not understand your needs. This makes it difficult to communicate with others and establish what really annoys you. For example, couples often discuss minor differences. How to put a towel, how to shake the soup – Above all, really bother them.
The ability to successfully solve a problem depends on your ability to:
Keep stress alive and calm while managing stress quickly. Calmness allows you to read and interpret verbal and nonverbal communication precisely.
Control emotions and behavior. When you control your emotions, you can communicate your needs without intimidating, intimidating, or punishing others.
Pay attention. Emotions are expressed as well as spoken by others.
Be aware and respect the differences. You can almost always solve problems quickly by avoiding irreverent words and actions.
To successfully resolve conflicts, you need to learn and practice two core skills:
Fast Stress Relief: The ability to quickly relieve stress instantly.
Emotional perception: The ability to keep emotions comfortable enough to react constructively in the midst of perceived attacks.
Fast stress relief
Being able to manage and mitigate stress right now is the key to balancing, focusing and controlling, no matter what challenges you face.If you do not know how to focus and control yourself, you will be overwhelmed by conflict situations and will not be able to respond in a healthy way.
The psychologist Connie Lillas uses the driving method to explain the three most common ways people react when stressed out:
On the gas foot. Angered or excited stress response. You are hot, moving, overly emotional, and still can not sit.
Press the brake. A withdrawn or depressed stress response. Shut down, free up space, and show little energy or emotion.
Raise your feet to both gas and brake. Nervous and frozen stress response. You can “freeze” with pressure and do nothing. You are in a state of paralysis but you are very nervous under the surface.
Stress interferes with the ability to resolve conflicts by limiting ability.
Accurately read non-verbal communication of others
Listen to what someone is actually doing.
Know your feelings.
Contact with your deep-rooted desires.
Clearly communicate your requirements.
Is stress a problem for you?
I stressed that you do not even know you. Are stressed. Stress can be a problem in your life if you check it out as follows:
Sometimes there is vision or tightness somewhere in the body.
When you breathe, you do not know the movement of the chest or the stomach.
Disputes absorb time and attention.
Emotional awareness is the key to understanding yourself and others. If you do not know how or why you feel in some way, you will not be able to communicate effectively or resolve any inconsistencies.
Although it may seem simple to know your feelings, many people try to ignore or ignore strong emotions such as anger, sorrow, and fear. But the ability to resolve conflicts depends on whether or not they are related to these feelings. If you are afraid of strong feelings or seek a strictly rational solution, you will have limited ability to face and resolve the difference.
Why emotional awareness is a key factor in resolving conflict
Emotional awareness – your conscious moment The emotional experience and the ability to properly manage all emotions at the moment are the basis of a communication process that can resolve conflicts.
Emotional awareness provides the following benefits:
Understand what really annoys others.
Understand yourself, including really annoying you.
Motivation until the conflict is resolved
Clear and effective communication
Interest and influence for others
Evaluation of emotion recognition level
The following quiz will help you assess emotional cognitive levels. Answer the following questions.
Almost, sometimes, often, often, or almost always. There is no right or wrong response, and it is a chance to get a better understanding of the emotional response.
How does it relate to feelings?
Do you experience flowing emotions? Does your experience change from moment to moment and feel one emotion behind?
Is your feelings accompanied by the physical sensations you experience? In the stomach or breast?
Do you experience distinct emotions and feelings? It is evident in other facets such as sadness, fear, and joy.
Can you feel intense feelings? It is strong enough to capture both your own interests and those of others.